We accept the love we think we deserve. After being on and off again with Pillow Pet for nearly two years going on three years, I realized that things were not going to change. (Don’t know who Pillow Pet is? He is introduced HERE). Nothing about our situation surprised me. I had a feeling a while ago that we would not work, however, I hoped I could change him and convince him that I was worth the effort he needed to put in.
Like Maya Angelou said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time”. I did not believe that he was disrespectful, emotional unavailable, and selfish. I couldn’t believe that someone was like that towards me. I overlooked those character traits when he would “act right” for a week or so after we argued and cursed. He would take me out, get dinner, go to the movies- for a brief time to get me to believe he cared. I fell for it every time. Of course, this would wane after he was back in my good graces.
In an episode of “Sex in the City”, Kerri Bradshaw questions herself asking, “Did I ever really love Big or was I addicted to the pain? The exquisite pain of wanting someone so unattainable.” It’s funny because I changed Pillow Pet’s name to Mr. Big in my phone a while back. I thought I loved him but I must have been addicted to the pain.
Coconut oil and Agave Nectar
Bluesberries, Strawberries, & Raspberries.
I mixed everything in the yogurt container – plain yogurt, vanilla, & condensed milk.
Pillow pet and I cooked together once. We requested a fruit parfait. He picked out the berries he wanted to have in his parfait- blueberries, strawberries, and raspberries. He loves blueberries. Homemade granola is great to have around the house to snack on and top your parfait with. You can eat this treat for breakfast, as a midday snack, and for midnight munchies. The assembly is a breeze. Layer everything you’re your favorite bowl, coffee mug, wine glass, cup. I flavored plain yogurt. You can buy vanilla yogurt if you want to skip a few steps.
Fruit Parfait with Homemade Granola
3 cups old fashioned rolled outs
1/3 cup sliced almonds
1 cup of your favorite dried fruit in any combination (rasisins, cherries, appricoats, dates, cranberries, figs)
1/2 cup cocuut oil
1/2 cup agave nectar
1/2 teaspoon cinnomon powder
24 oz plain vanilla yogurt
1 cup blueberries
1 cup sliced strawberries
1 cup raspberries
1 tablespoon light brown sugar
juice of a lime
1/2 cup condensed milk
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Preheat oven to 350 F.
1>Mix rolled oats, alomds, and dried fruit in a medium bowl. I chose rainsins. 2>Warm cocunot oil to room temperature by warming in the microwave in a microwave safe bowl for 10-15 seconds. 3>Mix agave nectar and cinnomon with coconut oil. 4>Spread granola evenly over a cookie sheet lined with parchment paper. 5> Bake and stir occasionaly so granola will not burn for 15-20 minutes. 6> Allow to cool for 10-15 minutes.
1> Clean, dry and mix blueberries, sliced strawberries, raspberries, brown suagr, jucie of half a lime in a bowl. Set asside for 15 minutes. 2> Mix plain yogurt, condensed milk, lime, and vanilla extract in a bowl together. 3> Assemble parfait on a glass or bowl by layering yougurt, fruit mixture, and granola.
Enjoy! Bon Apetite!